When, if, and how people plan to build families is not your business, so stop asking.
Pop culture is reframing our understanding of love, and not always in good ways.
Earlier this year, the Supreme Court handed down a landmark ruling on the subject of same sex marriage: States are required to marry, and to recognise the marriages of, same-sex couples. (I don’t want to get into the politics of sex, gender, and identity here, so suffice it to say that I am not in […]
Pop culture has many gems of wisdom to impart about parenting, how to be the best parent, and how to wow people with your parenting skills — really, it’s astounding that people can’t learn everything they need to know about parenting from television, books, and magazines. Of course, whether that’s good advice is a different […]
One of the ongoing cultural and social clashes in the United States seems to be centered around the idea that people never change, instead reaching adulthood and becoming frozen in a fixed and stable existence. If someone grows up as a girl and into a woman, for example, then she’s always a woman, and if […]
When you’re a mentally ill professional, I remarked to a friend the other day, you don’t have time for meltdowns. You have to haul on that front, no matter what the cost, to appear smooth and unruffled, focused and productive. You smile at the right times, do the right things, make sure everything is in […]
Kelly Oliver wrote a very interesting piece in The New York Times last year about the strange ways we deal with the relationship between humans and animals. I wasn’t entirely pleased with the piece as a whole, but there were two things she said that really struck me, and I wanted to expand on them, […]
Content note: This post discusses BDSM and rape. One of the more complex, troublesome, and ultimately frustrating relationships on Buffy the Vampire Slayer is the Buffy/Spike relationship. Spike, originally introduced as a bit character, wormed his way into being a central character on the series, and with good reason. He’s complex, he’s dynamic, he’s interesting, […]
Family relations are fraught for so many of us, and my views on family, obligation, and society seem to startle some people. They are too stark or cold or bleak or any number of dire adjectives, I am informed. Or I will change my mind later and be filled with regrets. It’s certainly true that […]
I always meant to write a followup to My Friends In the Internet, which turned out to be one of my more popular posts last year. It’s definitely among the top 10 in terms of posts I get emails about, which suggests it resonated with a lot of readers in some way or another. One […]