my experience

Watermelon Seeds

27 March, 2010 // 0 Comments

We are sitting on the jetty, a plate of perfect sunshine yellow watermelon slices between us. The plate is made from blueish-green glass spotted with bubbles, slightly uneven in a way which is supposed to suggest that it was made by an artisan, and ...

Beyond the Binary: Let’s Go To the Doctor!

2 March, 2010 // 1 Comment

A note about terminology in this post: Unfortunately, we’re forced to rely on the language of the kyriarchy when it comes to talking about gender identity and gender issues. The kyriarchy is pretty firmly convinced that people like me ...

Beyond the Binary: Getting Dressed

6 February, 2010 // 4 Comments

This is a bit of a Western-centric entry in this series, because my experiences lie primarily in the West, where clothing is very much gendered. Thanks to the imposition of Western values on other societies, I think that gendered clothing is ...

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are

23 January, 2010 // 0 Comments

“Tell all the Truth,” Emily Dickinson wrote, “but tell it slant.” It occurs to me, gentle readers, that I have not told my coming out story. And that is, in part, because my coming out story does not involve a grim talk ...

On Pasta

20 January, 2010 // 0 Comments

When we lived in Elk, we used to make a fair amount of pasta. My father would work in the woods a couple of days a week, but on other days we would putter around the house, working in the garden, cooking, and doing odds and ends. I remember making ...

Shaming and Blaming

15 January, 2010 // 3 Comments

Shaming and blaming are, of course, practically American pastimes, and they play right into each other in a tangled morass of “morals” which are wrapped around women’s bodies and minds from a very early age. Indeed, so deeply ...

Beyond the Binary: Meeting People

6 January, 2010 // 0 Comments

When cis binary folks meet new people, they generally don’t need to think about the gendering issue. They might accidentally be misgendered because people have preconceived notions about what men and women look like, but they can correct the ...