Those who enjoy mocking people for grieving celebrities are small minded and mean spirited, but they’re also straight up wrong. There’s more than one kind of attachment to the dead.
The funeral is an everpresent force in pop culture, particularly on television, where in long-running serial storytelling, people at some point have to die—from a cynical perspective, to drive the plot forward, but also from a purely practical one, to accommodate actors who want to leave programmes before the end. This means that we tend to […]
I recently finished reading Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, which is an excellent read for those of you who are interested in a glimpse into the modern funeral industry, and into alternative approaches to death and dying. It’s not a polemic, nor is it a pat panacea, but rather an acknowledgement of the fact that death and […]
A friend of mine died late last year. I’m not telling you this because I want your expressions of sympathy, but more as a statement of fact: She was alive, and now she is dead. She died because she had cancer and it metastasized and she chose to accept her death, spending her last few […]
Our society has a deeply conflicted relationship with grief. It doesn’t really want to see grief and mourning or be made aware that they happen and that people experience real sensations of pain and loss. People want to see grief neatly boxed away and tidied up, want to see people ‘moving on,’ by which they […]