Family can be a powerful supportive resource, or a source of much pain. It’s okay to cut family members off when they’re hurting you.
So your friends had a baby. What do you do now? Here are some ways to help out without becoming a burden.
It can be difficult to know what to do for someone who has an ill or dying family member. As when confronted with death and grieving, people feel awkward and stiff, uncertain about how to conduct themselves in the face of what they think should be a private or personal matter. On some level, it […]
There are a series of photographs of my grandfather in Korea, standing under camouflage netting on what must have been a hot and sunny day, from the dramatic shadows cast on his uniform and the objects around him. He’s smiling in many of them, a crooked smile that looks a lot like mine, and looking […]
Family relations are fraught for so many of us, and my views on family, obligation, and society seem to startle some people. They are too stark or cold or bleak or any number of dire adjectives, I am informed. Or I will change my mind later and be filled with regrets. It’s certainly true that […]