You knew it was coming. I’ve been holding it in all summer, but it’s finally time to talk about green sex. Since I assume that most of my readers do engage in the sexing now and then, I figure some of you might want to know how to make it more environmentally friendly. And might have some tips for the benefit of others which you have been bursting to share.
Greening up your sex life doesn’t just help the environment. It also helps your physical health, since a lot of non-natural sex products are actually pretty bad for you (sugared lubes, for example, increase the risk of yeast infections). Unfortunately, it can in some cases be more expensive, which is kind of a departure from the rest of this series. However, it might be worth it. (You can use all that money you’re saving on heating bills for Earth-friendly dildos! Speaking of which, I found a dildo in my garbage this morning. Is there something someone would like to tell me?)
Toys
Lots of sex toys contain chemicals which are not so great for your naughty bits, in addition to the environment. Many jelly toys, for example, are soft because of pthalates, which are not good. In addition to being bad for you, these toys breed bacteria. Glass, metal, hard plastics, and medical-grade silicone are the way to go. Erotic Glass Art makes an awesome line of products which are worth checking out. Most reputable sex stores, like Toys in Babeland and Good Vibrations, carry a line of environmentally-friendly products and have very knowledgeable staffs. In the meantime, use up old toys, but use condoms with them to make them safer, and ask your local sex shop about toy recycling (for melt down and repurposing, not resale, guys). And remember, never share toys unless they can be sterilized, and never use a toy on multiple orifices, kids!
Condoms
Use them. Throw them in the garbage, not the toilet. Be aware that condoms derived from animal products do not protect against STIs. Some latex condoms are, theoretically, biodegradeable. Polyurethane ones are definitely not. Lube-free condoms are the most environmentally friendly, as a general rule. If you’re especially concerned about pregnancy, an especially pernicious STI, consider using condoms and a second method of birth control (diaphragm, IUD, hormonal birth control, etc).
Lube
Some people use it, some people don’t. For those who do, there are a lot of “natural” product lines which don’t use chemicals, sweeteners, and other mysterious things. I’m of the opinion that you should be able to eat it if you’re putting it on your mucus membranes. I know there are recipes for homemade lube out there, but I haven’t tried any of them, so I wouldn’t want to vouch. If any readers have tips, add them in the comments.
Your Bedroom
Some fibers are more environmentally friendly than others. Bamboo is great, if you can get it, and it has the added advantage of being antimicrobial. Latex bedcovers can be a great way to spare the mattress for the messier among us, and in the wide world of bondage, there are a lot of environmentally friendly options. Like Twisted Monk’s organic hemp rope, hard/tie points made from recycled metals, and various vegan accessories. A surprising amount of household implements can be used in sensation play. Try using soy candles, which pollute less than regular wax, and be sure to buy candles in tins made from recycled materials, or to use some classy candlesticks of your own with tapers.
Porn
Is pretty much inherently green. I suppose some productions are more environmentally-friendly than others, but, quite frankly, I’ve seen hippie porn, and, believe me, you don’t want to. Although might I recommend bamboo hand/face towels for, ah, personal cleanup, rather than tissue? It’s much better for your skin, too!
Lingerie
Can also be environmentally friendly. Organic/fair trade garments are awesome, especially when made from natural fibers like silk, cotton, bamboo, and linen. Or you could spare the environment and your pocketbook and skip the lingerie altogether, but that’s a personal choice.
Food
Whether sploshing or not, some people make food a part of their sex life. There’s no reason not to think of the environment when buying/making food with sexing in mind. Buy fruits in season for a more succulent, juicy flavor. Avoid packaged products and develop your own, er, recipes for seduction. Rather than buying crazy expensive out of season aphrodisiacs, why not make your partner’s favourite obscure food? (Or not so obscure.)
Adventures
Why fly to some remote city for an assignation when you can stay local, thereby saving fuel (and future regrets of “never really getting a chance to see Paris”). Take a walk together instead of a drive. Stroll to your favourite neighborhood eatery and use the leisurely walk back to work off your meal and work up the energy for playtime. Be creative in your home environment, rather than casting far afield for entertainment. Harass each other via text message. Get adventurous in your own backyard!
Books
I think we’re all over the pretention of keeping a copy of the Kama Sutra by the bedside (and if you’re not over it yet, I don’t want to hear about it). But books are pretty darn sexy, and pretty ecologically friendly to boot. Use them. (And please stop giving me copies of How to Have Sex in the Woods.) The written word is a powerfully seductive thing. If you’re embarassed to be perusing the naughty books section at the bookstore, you probably shouldn’t be making the sexing. And, as a former bookstore employee, let me entreat you to refrain from taking naughty books to the children’s section and furtively perusing them there to see if you want to buy them. Everyone knows what you are doing, and it is really awkward when a child picks up A Fist in the Bush or The Ultimate Guide to Anal Pleasure for Women or, hell, The Joy of Sex and a parent has to explain the situation, all the while glaring bitterly at the staff of the store who were, after all, not responsible for the fact that said volume was wedged behind the Nancy Drews.
Music
For more on this topic, see Your Record Collection and You. Incidentally, most girls are aware that when you invite them over to your place to see your etchings/record collection, you may be using a certain amount of poetic license. (With a few exceptions. I did once briefly date an art collector who said “no really, I actually do have etchings I think you might like to see” over dinner on our second date. And, lo and behold, she really did!)