We need to change the narrative on domestic violence, because right now, it posits that abuse in the fault of the victim, and that is unacceptable.
As a followup to yesterday’s post on ACA and seeking help for mental health issues, I wanted to touch upon a subject that comes up periodically when people ask me for advice about helping mentally ill family and friends. Bluntly, if you are in danger, you have the right, and perhaps the imperative, to leave. […]
Earlier this year, celebrity chef Nigella Lawson got into the news not with a new book or outstanding achievement, but because her husband viciously choked her in public during an argument. Unforgettably, several years ago, pop star Rihanna became front-page news because of an incident with her boyfriend, Chris Brown. Domestic violence happens in celebrity […]
Five little words often spoken in response to finding out that someone is in an abusive relationship; the variant, of course, being ‘why didn’t she just leave’ in response to a horrific outcome in a violent relationship. She’s a grown woman, after all, she could have just walked out the door and not looked back. […]
People involved in any sort of service, community, or activism work that involves interaction with the court system are well aware of the need for ‘perfect victims,’ people who can serve as adequate test cases in the legal environment because their narratives are flawless and beyond reproach. An attorney working with victims of domestic violence, […]
That there is a clear link between mental illness and domestic violence is indisuputable. Most members of society agree that such a link exists and needs to be addressed, some with graphic tales to accompany their position. The nature of that link, though, runs contrary to popular claims. As with other generally accepted beliefs about […]
One of my favourite parts of Six Feet Under is the depiction of David and Keith’s relationship. It’s complicated, there’s a lot going on, and the show pushed it in some very interesting directions. It was clearly informed by Alan Ball’s own experience, but it goes deeper than that. The show really wanted to create […]
The New York Times recently reported, sounding somewhat aghast, that there is a connection between animal cruelty and human violence (content warning, the article has graphic descriptions of animal cruelty). The article covers some of the recent shifts in how animal cruelty cases are approached; instead of being viewed as isolated incidences of people doing […]